Pornography

What is required to meet your definition of lust. If I see a new Hummer going down the street and say to myself that is nice I would sure like to have one of those, is that lust? Is it lust if I see a pretty woman and say to myself I would like to hook up with her, but know that I am married, and do not make any attempt to do so.

 

same concept...there is a verse for that too....called living in lustville my, pastor says...I'm dying for a new john deer to replace my toro....bad...bad...bad.

lust is not temptation...lust is allowing yourself to invision yourself doing the act...temptation is a chick sitting with her legs spread and you catch a glipse. If you ponder on what it would be like, you have lusted. If you move on you have not. Point is I don't know a man alive that doesn't lust...if they don't then they are really fucked up....because eventually they will and won't know how to handle it....like the fucked up Priests in the Catholic Church. Spend years avoiding lust until they snap and start molesting kids....

I'd rather look at tits and ass and enjoy it, then move on, rather than pretend I don't have the desire or tendency to lust. Hell, we are forgiven, right?

 

WOW I found the Nero stuff fascinating!
Yes porn leads to the downfall of many things, marriages to begin with.

 

How does it hurt your marriage. If both spouses watch it together what is the harm?

 

I don't watch it, I believe garbage in garbage out.
But if your talking hard porn, I sure haven't heard anything good about it.
From what I've read, it leads to "harder" porn.

 

I am not really trying to defend it. I am just curious as to what some different opinions are. I think it would be hard to argue that it is a good thing but I do not really see it as that bad either. I think the worst part is that you are perpetuating it when you buy it and those who make it are not only wrong but in a dangerous situation. I guess some people can get a porn addiction but I think that is a small number of people. I think there are great number of people who just use it help rev up things with their spouse.

 

Porn can cause some very serious damage to a marriage.

 

Yes- if you are truly repentant. You can't say "I'm going to do what I want to do even though I know that it's wrong because I know God will forgive me". It doesn't work that way.

 

Porn damages a marriage in that real life never lives up to the porno film (or photos, etc.) If you're having thoughts and fantasizing about someone other than your spouse, you are being unfaithful. And like Riddel said, are you thinking about that porn star while making love to your wife? How would she feel if she knew that? Or husband, for that matter (I'm not accusing just the men- women are certainly guilty of the same thing.) I would be crushed if I knew that my husband was thinking about anyone other than me during our times of intimacy. I would feel completely betrayed. It would be very hard, if not impossible, for me to open myself up to him (emotionally and physically) again after that.

 

Once you have those images in your head, they don't go away easily. You replay them over and over. I would say that of all the people who indulge in pornography, the number that DON'T get addicted will be extremely low.