mom fell

thanks reb, we've learned our lesson and now i truly think that mom realizes that things will never be like they were. she still gets frustrated when she needs help standing or getting dressed. its something we cant "coach" into her either. we are simply there to lend a hand or a hug. we've had some whip ass conversations latley about the past, the "mistakes she's made" confessions from her, the "its ok momma" from me. i guess one would call it closure, something that some families never get around to. its kinda strange when its happening to you though.

 

Wow, so many of us are in the same boat. Mum went back into hospital last week, but only for three days. Every wee thing becomes a further set back and I hate it (so does she I might add). I guess it becomes a matter of managing on a weekly, and sometimes daily basis. We've considered moving in with my parents, or putting a wee house at the base of the hillside so we can be `on site' for things. Nobody really wants to go that way, but if it goes that way, it does. I can't see my parents ever moving out of the home they've had for the past 40 years.

Good luck everyone - and I hope your Mum recovers well VI.

 

It's a tough situation to deal with. The last few years with my grandmother with her Alzheimer's, she deteriorated physically more rapidly than I would have believed possible, especially for someone who was always so active & vital. She got very prone to losing her balance & falling; but she'd always been so independent, she just never could accept that she needed help to get around. She'd actually try to sneak out to do yard work! Scared the crap out of us numerous times....

We started tying bells on her shoes, so that if she tried to move around when we weren't in the room, we'd hear her & be able to get to her quickly.

Hard-headed old woman. I miss her.

 

mother goes to assisted living facility...........

we have been searching for a nice place and Friday we found one. mom is getting tired of moving into a different childs home every 4 months (this is my second time around) and she needs more care than we can give here, with both of us working all the time. after several visits to different facilities (with mom tagging along) we found a very, very nice assisted living home for mom. it does not resemble the crowded, hospitalesque nursing homes with the sad faces and the bed ridden. this place is well kept and homey with a great staff and activities. if anyone is interested, the name is Jurney's and its in Statesville (15 minutes from the house). it got the "moms approval rating" and thats all we needed. she moves in on Tuesday.

 

Good deal VI. It sounds like you really did your homework and footwork and found a super place. I hope your mom is happy there. And when it all comes down to it, that's what matters most.

 

yeah

we had good intentions at first. everybody was gun-ho about taking care of mom and getting her back to full idependence but it just didnt happen. plus, mom was terrified at the possibility of living in a home. i cant blame her. but 16 months later we have all come to the realization that assisted living is the best overall decision to make. we found an awesome place with availability and the timing is perfect. mom will have the best of everything. there will be some tears shed and nervous anticipation......the first day of school experience has now come full circle. life is like that. getting the process started (and learning the right path to take) was a learning experience for us. i only wish my sisters would have been more help. thats ok, we all have our own crosses to bear and our own thoughts to deal with later on down the road. i have no regrets. what we all went through was tough duty and some decisions are hard, yet they must be made. i cant help but feel a sense of relief. my wife has been a real trooper through all this. mom has too.

damn strokes!

 

tomorrow's the day. mom cried tonight when we put her to bed....told me she was proud of me. damn, this is hard.

 

Boy those few words are some of the strongest words known to man.

 

mom loves her new digs! right off the bat some old geezer stopped in to welcome her to the zoo. she had the damndest grin on her face i've seen in a year! then it was off to lunch, then bingo, then the valentines party! they finally ran us off.

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