Ladies, a serious question about sex...

Hmmm. I wonder if she worries about getting pregnant when you do have sex and that's just another reason to say no. I was just going to say maybe if she's on the pill, that her estrogen levels had changed as muff was saying.
Ask her to mention IUD's to her doc while she's there. If you do start having sex again, that will be outta the way
Also I needed to clear something up about the meaningful statement I made earlier. Don't try to make her think you are trying to make it meaningful to you- she won't care. It's not about you, it's about it being meaningful to her, she could care less what you are thinking

 

Everybody's made good comments on here and are right. All problem/solution stuff aside and in all seriousness, this probably isn't/shouldn't be the relationship for you. Maybe if you were already married a while and had kids you'd have incentive to try to beat the odds and make it work, but a year without affection is a pretty clear sign. Maybe she feels like she needs you in some ways, but general affection (ie not just sex) is part and parcel to a loving relationship. Hurt some now instead of more later. Sorry for speaking out of turn and I hope it works out the way you want regardless.

 

I hear ya sadic. I think the same thing, but I want to be sure. If she goes to the doctor and it doesn't improve any aspect of this relationship then there's only one other reason. We just ain't meant to be.


Thanks everyone for their comments.

 

My wife is a knockout and she still has issues with the way she looks. Its a way bigger thing than we (men) can possibly realize.

 

i don't understand women that don't want sex but are unwilling to orally please their partner.

 

Yeah I get none of that either. And she gets mad if I take care of the issue myself. So I'm like, what the hell do you want from me?

 

Does she depend on you financially? Would she have a hard time sustaining herself on her current income alone?

 

please tell me you're joking

 

Thank you. And I'm not joking.

 

She would have a hard time. One of us will have to move out of the house, probably both. She struggles month to month, and has two pending DWI's that she'll have to defend in the coming months. But I do not pay her bills. We're not married so everything is separate.