The Chica's Thread....

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He's right.

 

Like that saying goes, no matter how hot a chick is there is a guy somewhere out there that is tired of putting up with her shit.

 

Does the same thing go for a woman who is tired of putting up her mans shit?

 

And what do these same men say when the woman halls off and hits him? You are right it is a two way street and if men would stop being jackasses then woman would stop being bitches. Then again some people are just who they are and nothing more. Still no excuse to hit anyone!

 

Not mean. It proves my point about everyone being part of the problem when it comes to domestic violence! I hope all of you who laugh or make light of the situation never have to live in fear of your life or your child's life because of an abuser. I hope you never have your body thrown through every door and wall of your house, have cans of food whipped full force at your head, glass busted over any part of your body, your possessions destroyed because you could not sleep or were watching a show that the abuser did not like,. I hope you never learn to sleep with one eye open because you never know if you have done something that will cause the abuser to attack you wile you sleep. I hope you never get forced to have sex because if you don't you will be choked or have bones broken. I hope that you can eat when and what you want and never have to live in fear that your food will be crammed down your throat or that boiling water will be dumped in your lap because the abuser is not happy. I hope you never get chained to a bed or anything else for extended periods of time wile the abuser is at work or out with friends. I hope your children do not huddle in their closet because Daddy is beating Mommy again or Mommy is beating Daddy again. I hope your animals live long happy lives and do not end up dead or tortured because you pissed off the abuser. The list goes on but I hope this gets the point across that this is not a joke nor is it anything to poke fun at. Many people live like this. You may never know because those being abused are a master at hiding bruises and cuts. They are a master at smiling and letting the world think that everything is okay. They have to be because if not they or someone they love could end up dead. They no longer feel like they can do anything about the situation. The abuser will brain wash them into thinking that they are nothing and worthless and that they somehow deserve this kind of treatment. It could be your Mom, Daughter, Son or Father. As you go to sleep tonight I hope you do so with a clear conscience knowing that this could be happening to a loved one or a close friend and you are making jokes about it!

 

There are definitely woman abusers. Domestic Violence is not a woman issue or a man issue, it's an everyone's issue. But statistics show that women are 90% or more of the victim each time. Men will always be stronger. If there are issues where a woman is pushing a man to the point where he has to beat her, there has got to be some sort of way to fix it before it gets to that point. They don't need to be in a relationship with each other if it is that violent. I do agree that some women can push a person to it. Men can be the same way. Abuse is abuse. Not something to joke about.. but considering what website we are on, I guess it's not going to be taken seriously. Thanks @Genesis

 

Oh simmer down.

Actually I know what most of these things are like all too well and there's nothing funny about it ever, but there's something funny about playa always.

 

Then we agree to disagree because I do not think so. He may be funny at times but not always. Then again maybe he is and I have just lost my sense of humor when it comes to this topic because I have lived it as both the abused and the abuser. I have mental and physical scars from both. Every day I have to live with what was done to me and because of what was done what I did to someone else(not an excuse but I was not in a right state of mind after I left the person who abused me and ended up taking it out on a loved one). To this day I fear that I am going to snap and loose it all again and hurt someone I love. Counseling helps but it is not a cure all. It has been 14 years and on some days it feels and seems like it was just yesterday. The nightmares never end. Yes you move forward and on but the memory is always there. So I am sorry if I do not simmer down. I happen to take this topic very personally and seriously.

 

I'm sorry you had such a horrible time. Truly. No one should have to put up with that type of abuse.
I'm hardened by some of the board personas here and I've seen much worse from them. However- knowing some of them in person, I know they're truly kind people and even almost too tender hearted. I think it's their way to deal with the horrible things in the world. Not Fro though- he's mean in person too.